I have to…. I must…. I should…. How many times have you started a sentence off like that?

The impression is that you're not good enough as you are and you must/should/need to make changes in order to be good enough.  Ouch.  I'm here to tell you to stop “shoulding” all over yourself.  It only serves to stress you out and make you beat yourself up.

You may want to weigh less.  But why?  Do you feel like it's something you should do or have to do or will only feel good about yourself if you do?

How about this instead: I like myself as I am – extra weight and all.  In order to be healthier and live longer, I CHOOSE to release some extra weight.  And if I don't, I love myself anyway.  Chances are, from this place, it will come easier than it does when feeling the need to change in order to be better and more lovable.

Here are some tips to help you like yourself again so that you can make changes from a place of love rather than loathing:

See what you like.  Look in the mirror...